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I have always been a "let's get things done" kinda girl. I make lists, I check things off said list, I make a new list with things that didn't get checked off of the old list and I get things done. I may have mentioned in a prior post that I am not very good at asking for help or depending on others to get things done that I want done when I want it done and how I want it done (done being the key word here). Controlling, not me *said sheepishly*. On the flip side, I can procrastinate with the best of them. If there are things that I am not really excited about doing, if in fact, the thought of a task has "mundane" written all over it, you will find me sleeping late, waking up and rewriting my list to put off the boring chore until another day. I may even spend more time rewriting my lists than actually doing things on the list. But I digress...The point is, if there is something that really needs to get done, I am on a mission to complete it.
In my younger and much less wiser days, I was known to get things done even when it seemed everything was conspiring against me. The harder things became, the more I forced myself towards completion of the task. There have been days when I set out to accomplish something only to find me several hours later either crying hysterically, screaming profanity while the cats ran for cover, bargaining with the unknown voices, or climbing back in bed and putting the pillow over my head. I couldn't understand where my plan went astray, why things weren't working out like I thought they should. I think that's when I started drinking, not quite sure as my timing might be a bit off. It's as good of an excuse as any, don't you think?
Fast forward to the present and boy have I really learned what was meant by "if it don't fit, don't force it". Loved the song back in the day and the lyrics are perfect:
If it don't fit, don't force it
Just relax and let it go
Just 'cause that's how you want it
Doesn't mean it will be so
I found that when I just relaxed and spent a little time visualizing my preferred outcome before starting to take action, things got much easier. I even took it a step further and would visualize the outcome that was the best for everyone concerned. This way of being has brought much peace into my life. If things are seeming to be difficult to accomplish, if there are too many obstacles presenting themselves into the mix, then chances are the plan needs rethinking because the way that I am going about it doesn't seem to be the best way to get it done. Even my procrastination feels better because on a particular day that I had scheduled a task to get done, there may be something else that comes up that is more important and becomes the priority. I feel that action taken without really lining up the energy, attitude, thoughts, whatever you want to call it, can result in a lot of unnecessary frustration. I try to go with the flow instead of fighting against it, which wastes my precious time and energy. Even in my writing, most of the time I have no idea what I am going to write until I sit down at the computer. I may have an idea but if that idea isn't ready to be expressed, I find that the writing doesn't flow and I end up spending lots of time on reworking the piece, all the while getting more and more frustrated. If I sit down and spend a few minutes just tuning in until I feel the alignment click into place, feel the flow, then things start to pop up to the surface and the idea who's time it is to be shared, makes it's way to the top. I love it!
So next time, when things don't seem to be working out quite right and they seem harder than they should be, take a deep breath and step away for a few moments. Take some time to feel your way into what it is you are really trying to accomplish and see if something pops into your mind that would make the process a whole lot easier. Let it flow, let it flow, let it flow...and then take action!
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